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- Meet Hannah from Cherry & Fern Celebrations
Cherry & Fern Celebrations is a wedding celebrant service based in South East London, specialising in creating bespoke ceremonies with a focus on inclusivity and a relaxed atmosphere. Founded by Hannah (she/her) a passionate advocate for LGBTQ+ rights and a seasoned event professional (having worked in the West End for the last 15 years!), the business caters to couples seeking a wedding ceremony that reflects their unique love story, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity. A Vision Built on Inclusivity and Acceptance Hannah's journey into the world of wedding celebrancy stemmed from a desire to create wedding experiences that were personal, meaningful, and accessible to all. Having never subscribed to traditional norms herself , Hannah recognised the need for a celebrant service that celebrated love in all its beautiful forms. Hannah’s vision was further solidified by her experience within the LGBTQ+ community, particularly the challenges faced by bisexual individuals (Hannah is also bisexual and spoke about bi-erasure) seeking representation within the wedding industry and in LGBTQ+ spaces generally. Creating a More Inclusive Wedding Industry for LGBTQ+ Lovers Cherry & Fern Celebrations prioritises inclusivity at every step of the wedding planning process. From using gender-neutral language throughout its communication to actively listening to client stories, the aim is to foster a safe and welcoming environment where LGBTQ+ couples feel comfortable expressing themselves freely. This extends to acknowledging the potential challenges faced by those estranged from family due to their sexual orientation or gender identity. By avoiding assumptions and promoting diverse content on social media, Cherry & Fern Celebrations strives to provide a space where LGBTQ+ couples can find inspiration and guidance in planning their dream ceremony. Beyond inclusivity within their own services, Hannah and Cherry & Fern Celebrations actively promote LGBTQ+ voices and businesses within the wedding industry. A commitment that’s evident in Hannah's decision to invest time, energy and resources into LGBTQ+ focused wedding businesses, such as the Rebel Love Directory, rather than less inclusive organisations. Additionally, Cherry & Fern Celebrations champions education and awareness by consistently seeking out opportunities to expand its knowledge and understanding of LGBTQ+ issues. Hannah is also an Equality, Diversity, and Inclusion (EDI) consultant, creating informative and accessible workshops for those looking to be better allies to the LGBTQ+ community. Hannah said: “I think my background in EDI really helps me to create meaningful connections with my clients, and lets them know they’re in trusted and safe hands. I’ve been told throughout my life that I have the ability to put people at ease, and in an industry that can sometimes feel like all sparkles, tits, and teeth, I offer a relative haven of calm and meaningful connection.” Hannah is also incredibly passionate about storytelling. She's well aware that every couple has a unique journey and with Cherry & Fern, they prioritise capturing the essence of these stories during the ceremony planning process. This personalised approach allows for the creation of ceremonies that are deeply meaningful and resonate with the couple and their loved ones. Cherry & Fern's commitment to diversity also means that even the business’ marketing materials showcase real-life couples and diverse ceremonies, aiming to inspire LGBTQ+ to-be-weds by demonstrating the possibilities for their own wedding day. This approach celebrates the beauty of individuality and encourages couples to envision a ceremony that reflects their unique love story. Helping Lovers Feel Valued On and Before Their Big Day What sets Hannah and Cherry & Fern Celebrations apart is their unwavering commitment to inclusivity and their ability to create genuine connections with couples. Hannah’s expertise in EDI fosters a sense of trust and understanding, while her ability to create relaxed and meaningful ceremonies caters to those who might feel overwhelmed by traditional wedding norms. As an advocate for LGBTQ+ lovers, Hannah anticipates and is prepared to address any challenges that may arise in promoting LGBTQ+ inclusivity. Sensitive conversations, especially ones around identity or tradition, aren’t always easy but Hannah knows her training and experience as an EDI consultant will be a valuable asset. Advice for Fellow Professionals In The LGBTQ+ Space For wedding suppliers looking to become more LGBTQ+ inclusive, Hannah suggests challenging preconceived notions and embracing the diverse realities of modern weddings. Moving away from traditional terminology and offering alternative ceremony structures are just some of the steps vendors can take to create a more welcoming environment. She believes the most rewarding aspect of their work lies in the opportunity to learn about couples' unique love stories. This includes both the triumphs and challenges that have shaped their journeys together. She recommend incorporating these narratives into the ceremony to create truly personal experiences that celebrate the enduring power of love. Vibe check! We asked Hannah a few questions to get a feel of her personality and a bit of a vibe check! If Cherry & Fern Celebrations had a theme song, what would it be and why? “This is such a tough question! Probably “Still Into You” by Paramore, a) because it’s an absolute bop, but b) because the lyrics could be applied to absolutely every wedding ceremony I’ve ever done, and are just such a joyous declaration of love.” I should be over all the butterflies But I'm into you (I'm into you) And, baby even on our worst nights I’m into you (I’m into you) Let ‘em wonder how we got this far ‘Cause I don’t really need to wonder at all Yeah, after all this time I’m still into you If you could offer one piece of advice to lovers planning their wedding, what would it be? “Think outside the box and don’t be afraid to truly honour what you want. If you hate the idea of standing up in front of a room full of people? Don’t! Sit down for all of the parts of the ceremony you possibly can. Terrified of public speaking? Do your vows in private, with just you and your partner! Don’t feel pressure to do things just because they’re “expected”” Describe your dream wedding (real or imaginary) in three words. “Relaxed. Banter. Pizza.” If you want to find out more about Hannah at Cherry & Fern Celebrations then you can read more on her profile HERE Or head directly to her website HERE
- Being LGBTQ+ Doesn’t Automatically Make You an Ally: Why We All Need to Do the Work
There’s a common misconception that simply being Queer, Gay, or part of the LGBTQ+ community inherently makes someone an ally to all others within it. However, the reality is far more nuanced. Being a member of the LGBTQ+ community doesn’t absolve us from the responsibility of actively supporting and advocating for others in the community who face different or even more severe forms of discrimination and marginalisation. In fact, the notion that being LGBTQ+ automatically grants someone "ally" status can be problematic, as it often overlooks the biases, prejudices, and privileges that exist within the community itself. Allyship isn't a passive label; it’s an active practice that requires ongoing reflection, education, and effort. Here’s why simply being LGBTQ+ doesn’t guarantee you’re an ally—and what we all need to do to become better allies to one another. Internalised Homophobia and Queerphobia Even as LGBTQ+ individuals, many of us carry deep-seated internalised homophobia, biphobia, or Queerphobia, shaped by the cis-heteronormative societies we were raised in. Whether it manifests as shame about our identities, disdain for more flamboyant or non-normative expressions of Queerness, or distancing ourselves from parts of the community, internalised prejudices can prevent us from being effective allies. Internalised homophobia can lead to reinforcing harmful stereotypes or looking down upon others in the LGBTQ+ community who may not fit into a narrow image of what it means to be "acceptable." For instance, some gay men may distance themselves from the trans community or femme-presenting people in order to feel more socially accepted. Similarly, bisexual and non-binary people are often dismissed by others in the LGBTQ+ community, even though we should be united in fighting against all forms of erasure. Recognising and addressing our own internalised biases is crucial. It requires a willingness to unlearn the homophobia and transphobia that we may have absorbed, and to actively re-educate ourselves to become better allies within the community. Transphobia Within the LGBTQ+ Community One of the most glaring examples of the divide within the LGBTQ+ community is the exclusion and marginalisation of trans, non-binary, and gender non-conforming people. Despite the LGBTQ+ acronym uniting us under a shared umbrella, not all members of the community accept or support trans people. Transphobia can come from those who may be gay, lesbian, or bisexual but still hold onto traditional, binary notions of gender. This is particularly evident in certain exclusionary groups, such as TERFs (trans-exclusionary radical feminists), who claim to be feminist and sometimes identify as part of the LGBTQ+ community but actively campaign against trans rights. Being part of the LGBTQ+ community doesn’t mean you're automatically supporting trans rights. Allyship requires actively standing up for our trans siblings, calling out transphobia wherever we see it—even within our own circles—and advocating for their right to live freely and safely. This includes learning about the struggles trans people face, from disproportionate violence and discrimination to healthcare access, and taking tangible steps to support their fight for equality. You Have to Do the Work Allyship isn’t passive. You can’t just claim the label and stop there. Real allyship requires continuous effort and action. Being part of the LGBTQ+ community by itself doesn’t make you an ally; you need to actively engage with the struggles faced by the different identities within our broader community. This means speaking up when we hear harmful language or attitudes, whether it’s about trans people, non-binary folks, Black or POC LGBTQ+ individuals, or anyone else facing unique struggles within the community. It’s also about doing the internal work—checking our own privileges, unlearning biases, and holding ourselves accountable for our role in upholding or challenging systemic inequalities. Centring Intersectionality: Supporting Our Black and POC Siblings Another crucial element of LGBTQ+ allyship is understanding intersectionality. The experiences of LGBTQ+ people who are also Black, Indigenous, or people of colour (BIPOC) are often shaped by both racism and Queerphobia. It’s important to acknowledge that BIPOC LGBTQ+ folks face compounded forms of oppression, and that our allyship must extend beyond just fighting for Queer rights. For example, Black and Brown Trans women, in particular, face staggering levels of violence and discrimination, far more than other members of the LGBTQ+ community. True allyship requires centring these marginalised voices, amplifying their experiences, and addressing the systemic racism and classism that makes their lives even harder. If we don’t actively advocate for our BIPOC siblings, we are ignoring the most vulnerable within our community. That’s not allyship—it’s complicity. Doing Allyship Right: Tangible Steps So, how do we become better allies to each other within the LGBTQ+ community? 1. Unlearn Harmful Biases: Take the time to reflect on your own biases. Whether it’s internalized homophobia or transphobia, we all have room for growth. Read books, follow activists on social media, and listen to the experiences of others who may have different identities than you. Be willing to challenge your assumptions. 2. Speak Up and Call Out: When you see or hear harmful attitudes—whether it’s transphobia, racism, or biphobia—speak up. Challenge people’s prejudices, even if it’s uncomfortable. Change doesn’t happen through silence. 3. Support Marginalised Voices: Use your platform, privilege, or influence to amplify the voices of those within the community who are most marginalised. Whether it’s promoting the work of Black trans activists or uplifting non-binary perspectives, find ways to centre others’ experiences, especially when they’re often ignored. 4. Advocate for Inclusive Policies: Whether in your workplace, social groups, or larger community, push for inclusive policies that benefit the most vulnerable. Support trans-inclusive healthcare, push for anti-racist initiatives, and fight for better protections for LGBTQ+ people of all races, genders, and identities. 5. Donate and Volunteer: If you have the means, donate to LGBTQ+ charities, particularly those that focus on supporting trans people and BIPOC members of the community. Volunteering your time can also make a significant impact, whether you’re helping with outreach programs or organising events that celebrate diversity within the community. Allyship is a Lifelong Commitment In the end, being LGBTQ+ is an identity, but being an ally is a choice—one that must be earned through consistent, active effort. Allyship requires us to confront our own biases, speak up for others, and do the work to make sure that every member of the LGBTQ+ community feels seen, valued, and supported. Only then can we truly say we are allies to one another. We are stronger together, but that strength only comes when we actively work to uplift the most vulnerable within our community. Let’s all commit to doing better, every day.
- Introducing Illustration By Kiwi - live wedding illustrator
Illustration By Kiwi is a live illustration service based in Oxfordshire, specialising in capturing your big day through ink and watercolour portraits. Frankie, the founder of Illustration By Kiwi, isn't just a talented artist; they are a proud member of the LGBTQ+ community. Frankie’s passion for art ignited early on. From a young age, they were always doodling, sketching, and dreaming up new worlds. Manga and comics were their first loves, followed by a deep admiration for the magic of Disney. After graduating from the Academy of Arts and gaining expertise for over 15 years across diverse art styles, Frankie moved from drawing for fun and then from friends and family to starting their business. Now they want drawing to be their future. When planning their own wedding, Frankie saw a gap in the industry – a lack of vendors catering specifically to the LGBTQ+ demographic. This realisation sparked the idea for a business that not only captured the beauty of weddings but also championed inclusivity and artistic expression. Encouraging Inclusivity and Representation in the Wedding Industry Illustration By Kiwi prioritises inclusivity in every aspect. It's marketing materials are a kaleidoscope of diverse couples, ensuring everyone feels seen and represented. Its social media posts and reels showcase the joy of weddings, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Frankie and Illustration By Kiwi’s marketing materials are also constantly evolving to reflect a wider range of couples and lovers, with Frankie committing to ensuring they make more content to ensure their portfolio showcases the true spectrum of love and chosen family. All it takes is a short glance at its social media accounts to see that Frankie and Illustration by Kiwi welcome all love stories with arms wide open! The Personalised Touch for Lovers and Events Illustration By Kiwi offers many different packages, including bespoke packages for couples and lovers. Frankie offers pre-designed packages or can tailor them based on unique needs. This level of customisation allows the artwork to truly reflect the lovers’ personalities and celebrate their stories in a way that feels authentic and to a budget that suits them. During the illustration process, Frankie captures the spirit of the event, from the magic and joy of the ceremonies to laughter-filled receptions, ensuring that guests feel like part of the artwork and the lovers’ history. Difficulties in Promoting Diversity When asked if they have faced any challenges or obstacles in promoting LGBTQ+ inclusivity in their business, Frankie explained that fortunately, they hadn’t. We also asked them for any advice they’d give to other wedding suppliers who are looking to become more LGBTQ+ inclusive. Frankie said: Be kind, accept people for who they are and don’t judge - after all, we are all human! Frankie believes it's important to maintain an open mind and to continuously learn in order to serve all couples and lovers better. Being LGBTQ+ in the Wedding Space Frankie really relishes working with the LGBTQ+ community and said that they particularly enjoy the fact that queer lovers end up being quirky, fun and the ones most likely to express their true spirit. They also believe that being an openly LGBTQ+ person in the wedding industry is contributing to the sector being a safer space, where all couples and lovers can celebrate themselves and their relationships with confidence. By simply existing as a business, Illustration By Kiwi is encouraging other wedding suppliers to embrace inclusivity. Vibe check! If Illustrations By Kiwi had a theme song, what would it be and why? “True Colours,” Frankie replied, “not only do I like the song, but it also formed part of the wedding vows that I dedicated to my wife!” What's the most unique or unexpected request you've received from a client? “Someone once asked me to do an illustration of one of the newlyweds in their wedding night garments!” Can you share a fun or heartwarming moment from one of your weddings or events? “One wedding featured the couple’s adorable dog as the ring bearer so I got to illustrate them looking dapper in a tuxedo top!” How do you like to unwind after a busy day of live illustration? “Relaxing with my wife and a good drink. I’ll also give some love to our two cats, Meeko and Cleo.” Describe your dream wedding (real or imaginary) in three words “Magical , cosy and unique” Finally, share a fun fact about yourself or your business that most people wouldn't know My business is still really new so I’m still working as a chef while trying to build my illustration business. I’d love to be able to make it my full-time job, that’s my dream. You can find out more about Illustrations By Kiwi on their profile HERE or head direct to their website - https://www.illustrationbykiwi.com/
- The complexity of "safe space": rethinking language in service to LGBTQ+, Black, POC, and Disabled Communities
In the world of inclusive services, the term "safe space" is often used to signify environments where marginalised groups—such as LGBTQ+ individuals, Black communities, People of Colour (POC)/Global Majority, and Disabled people—can feel secure, respected, and free from discrimination. While the intention behind creating and promoting "safe spaces" is undoubtedly positive, it's crucial to recognise that this term may not always be appropriate or sufficient. Let's explore why this is the case and how we can rethink our approach to inclusivity and safety. Understanding the Term "Safe Space" The concept of a "safe space" emerged from the need to provide marginalised groups with environments where they could express themselves without fear of judgement or harm. In these spaces, individuals are supposed to find refuge from the biases and prejudices that pervade broader society. While the idea is well-intentioned, it is essential to understand the complexities and limitations of the term. The Limitations of "Safe Space" 1. Subjectivity of Safety What feels safe for one person might not feel safe for another. Safety is highly subjective, influenced by individual experiences, traumas, and fears. Declaring a space as "safe" can inadvertently dismiss the varying degrees of comfort and security experienced by different individuals within marginalised communities. 2. Overpromising Safety Promoting a service or environment as a "safe space" can sometimes lead to overpromising and underdelivering. Despite the best efforts, it is impossible to guarantee complete safety from micro-aggressions, misunderstandings, or even overt discrimination. This can lead to feelings of betrayal or disillusionment when the promised safety is not fully realised. 3. Ignoring Intersectionality People exist at the intersection of multiple identities, and their experiences of marginalisation can be multifaceted. A space that is safe for an LGBTQ+ person might not address the specific needs and concerns of Black, POC, or Disabled individuals, and vice versa. It's essential to consider how intersecting identities influence the perception of safety. 4. Perpetuating a False Sense of Security Labelling a space as "safe" can sometimes create a false sense of security, leading to complacency. It can prevent continuous evaluation and improvement of practices and policies to ensure they genuinely address the needs of marginalised communities. 5. Limited Personal Perspective Even if you are part of a marginalised community, you cannot know everything about the experiences of other marginalised groups. This limitation means you might not be able to create a space that is 100% safe for everyone. Acknowledging this can create a more honest and inclusive approach to service. Moving Beyond "Safe Space" 1. Creating Brave Spaces Instead of focusing solely on safety, consider creating "brave spaces." Brave spaces encourage open dialogue, vulnerability, and mutual respect, acknowledging that discomfort and difficult conversations are part of the growth and learning process. These spaces emphasise resilience and empowerment, rather than the absence of challenge. 2. Prioritising Active Allyship Ensure that your commitment to inclusivity goes beyond labels. Active allyship involves continuous education, listening, and adapting to the needs of marginalised communities. It means taking tangible actions to support and uplift these communities, rather than relying solely on symbolic gestures. 3. Engaging in Ongoing Dialogue Create channels for ongoing feedback and dialogue with the communities you aim to serve. Regularly engage with LGBTQ+, Black, POC, and Disabled individuals to understand their evolving needs and concerns. This ensures that your services remain relevant and genuinely supportive. 4. Implementing Inclusive Practices Develop and implement policies and practices that promote inclusivity at all levels. This includes hiring diverse staff, providing comprehensive training on cultural competency and anti-discrimination, and ensuring that your physical and digital spaces are accessible and welcoming to all. 5. Being Transparent and Honest Be transparent about the efforts and limitations in creating inclusive environments. Acknowledge that while you strive to make your services as welcoming and supportive as possible, there is always room for improvement and growth. 6. Recognising Personal Limitations Acknowledge that even if you are from a marginalised community, your perspective is limited. You cannot fully understand all the nuances of other marginalised groups' experiences. This recognition can drive a more empathetic and inclusive approach, ensuring continuous learning and adaptation. Alternative Terms to "Safe Space" While "safe space" is a popular term, there are alternative phrases that might better capture the dynamic and inclusive environments we aim to create: 1. Empowering Space A place where individuals are uplifted, supported, and encouraged to be their authentic selves. 2. Brave Space An environment that encourages open dialogue, growth, and the courage to confront difficult issues. 3. Inclusive Space A setting where diversity is celebrated, and all voices are welcomed and valued. 4. Supportive Space A space that provides the necessary resources, understanding, and care for all individuals. 5. Respectful Space An environment that emphasises mutual respect, understanding, and the dignity of all participants. While the concept of a "safe space" is rooted in good intentions, it is essential to recognise its limitations and strive for more nuanced and effective approaches to inclusivity. By creating brave spaces, prioritising active allyship, engaging in ongoing dialogue, implementing inclusive practices, recognising personal limitations, and being transparent, we can create environments that truly support and uplift LGBTQ+, Black, POC/Global Majority, and Disabled individuals. Let’s commit to continuous learning and action, ensuring that our services genuinely reflect the diverse and dynamic communities we serve.
- introducing the rebel love wedding fair: your inclusive lgbtq+ wedding fair
Guess what? We are hosting an LGBTQ+ wedding fair and you’re invited. Here at Rebel Love Directory , we are all about celebrating love and diversity in a way that is safe and inclusive for couples, lovers and their communities alike. Running an LGBTQ+ wedding directory brings us so much joy and we wanted to make the experience even better by designing a space where wedding-havers and vendors can connect. As members of the LGBTQ+ communities ourselves, we understand just how important it is not only to feel represented but to feel understood and valued. We’re also warmly welcoming allies who want to show their support for the LGBTQ+ community and discover amazing businesses that share their values. The Rebel Love Wedding Fair is going to be a one-stop shop for everything you might need to plan a perfect wedding from LGBTQ+-friendly officiants to stylists and photographers. So if you’re planning your dream wedding and you’re a member of the LGBTQ+ community or if you’re an active ally then make sure you mark your calendar and make plans to come and visit us for our big gay wedding fair! Celebrating diversity in the wedding space We can't believe that love is love until everyone is free to love who they want and express themselves however they want ( listen to our podcast all about this here ). So we want to ensure that wedding suppliers focus on mutual respect that is so much more than just tolerance or tokenism. As such, all vendors are vetted by us before being allowed to join us at the fair, or even be listed on the directory. In our commitment to making the wedding industry a safer place, we investigate all vendors and suppliers who want to be associated with us to ensure their active allyship. We look for visible allyship such as pronouns being displayed, diverse representation throughout their websites and social media platforms and take note of any activities they might be taking part in that will better the lives of LGBTQ+ communities. We respect and support all adults who are in consenting relationships and want to create spaces both on and offline for all LGBTQ+ community members and allies to explore their wedding options, regardless of: Disability Race Gender Orientation (yes, we believe you’re still queer even if you’re in a straight-presenting relationship!) We’ve also chosen an accessible venue for the fair. It has a lift, accessible toilets, paved access to the venue and unrestricted parking for blue badge holders. Additionally, we’ll be holding a quiet hour with limited guests and no live music to help out our friends who might be neurodivergent or find big crowds and lots of noise stressful. Not only are we creating a wedding fair that is committed to doing its best for all members of the community, we’re creating the opportunity to support LGBTQ+ businesses. We want to make it easier for folks to celebrate love and diversity. What’s a better way to do that than literally putting your money where your mouth is? Meet the wedding experts Never planned a queer wedding before? No sweat - Our LGBTQ+-friendly vendors and suppliers have and they want to support you. It can be really tricky to plan something that’s outside of ‘the norm’. Heteronormativity and traditions might be making you feel like you have to do things a certain way. Does the question “who gets walked down the aisle in a same-sex marriage, then?” or “who’s wearing the dress?” ring any bells? Not only does the Rebel Love Wedding Fair give you the opportunity to find inspiration from those with a wealth of experience, but also the opportunity to get real insight into real experiences from these professionals. MEET: Phillipa Cookman Some of you may already know her from The Queer Campfire and her wholesome sing-alongs, but she's also an incredible wedding singer/guitarist and she'll be showing off her talents on the stage at the wedding fair! MEET: Rosie Roberts Beauty Rosie is probably the biggest ally that we have ever met, she's constantly doing all that she can to make everyone feel included and represented in her work and even runs an inclusive Alt Wedding Fair (the week after ours, you should check it out!) Rosie will be exhibiting her FIRE wedding makeup skills at the wedding fair. MEET: Chloe Green Celebrant What can we say about Chloe? The vibrance, the love, the SASS. Honestly, if you haven't met Chloe yet, you are missing out. We cannot wait to have Chloe's energy at the wedding fair and we cannot wait for you to meet her and find out all about the work she does as an inclusive queer celebrant. MEET: Ahh Toots If you're from Bristol, then you've probably heard of the magical cake shop at the bottom of Christmas Steps... and if you aren't from Bristol then visiting their tiny little cakery is the perfect excuse to book a visit to Bristol the same weekend as the wedding fair! Ahh Toots will be at the fair providing bites to eat whilst you deliberate on which wonderfully inclusive suppliers you book for your wedding/elopement! These are just a handful of the incredible suppliers that will be exhibiting at our wedding fair, so be sure to grab your tickets to meet all of our inclusive vendors! Why do we need an LGBTQ+ wedding fair anyway? As queer folks, we know how hard but just how important it is to live authentically (if it’s safe enough to do so, of course). Taking steps towards getting married as an LGBTQ+ person is not only a huge step for those people personally, but is a fantastic and important contribution towards normalising and celebrating queer love and relationships. Let’s not forget that same-sex marriage was only legalised in England, Wales and Scotland 10 years ago . We hope that this fair will go some way to take a little bit of stress from your big day and replace it with excitement and a touch of magic. Come and join us at the Rebel Love Wedding Fair So, fancy it? The fair is taking place at The Station in Bristol on Saturday 16th November between 10am and 4.30pm. Ticket prices start at £3 and 50% of all ticket sales will be donated to an LGBTQIA+ charity. If you and your loved ones want to join us at the fair, you can get your tickets (including an accessible hour ticket) here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/906019949057?aff=oddtdtcreator In the meantime, if you want to get a head start on planning, we’ve got a couple of blog posts with things to consider, such as whether you should choose a celebrant or a registrar and how to create a personalised LGBTQ+ ceremony with queer wedding ideas and traditions to embrace. (Psst. If you know someone who’s planning their big day, we’d love it if you shared this with them!)
- 5 things to remember during pride month
As Pride Month is upon us, it's essential to reflect on the significance of this celebration and what it truly means for the LGBTQ+ community. While June is a time of vibrant parades, events, and a heightened sense of community, it's crucial to remember that being Queer is not confined to just one month a year. Here are five important things to keep in mind as we get ready for Pride Month. 1. LGBTQIA+ Pride is 365 Days a Year Pride Month is an opportunity to celebrate and honour the LGBTQ+ community, but it's important to remember that being Queer is an identity that we live with and embrace every single day. Our experiences, challenges, and triumphs are not limited to June. True allyship means recognising and supporting the LGBTQ+ community year-round, not just when it’s convenient or trendy. Celebrate Pride Month with enthusiasm, but don’t forget to carry that spirit of acceptance and support throughout the year. 2. Beware of Rainbow Washing As Pride Month becomes more widely recognised, many companies and organisations are eager to show their support by displaying rainbow flags, changing their logos, or launching Pride-themed products. While this visibility can be positive, it's crucial to distinguish between genuine support and rainbow washing. Rainbow washing occurs when companies use LGBTQ+ symbols and colours for marketing purposes without any real commitment to the community. This performative allyship can be frustrating and harmful, as it reduces our identities to mere marketing tools. To identify genuine allies, look for companies that actively support LGBTQ+ rights and initiatives year-round. Do they have inclusive policies? Do they donate to LGBTQ+ charities or organisations? Are they vocal about LGBTQ+ issues beyond just the month of June? Actions speak louder than words, and true allyship involves continuous and meaningful support. 3. Support LGBTQ+ Businesses and Creators One of the most impactful ways to show support during Pride Month and beyond is by uplifting LGBTQ+ businesses and creators. Whether it’s shopping at Queer-owned stores, hiring LGBTQ+ wedding suppliers, or following and promoting LGBTQ+ artists, your support can make a significant difference. These businesses and individuals not only bring diversity and creativity to their fields but also provide essential representation for the community. Consider using platforms like Rebel Love Directory to find and support LGBTQ+ wedding suppliers and other businesses. By choosing to invest in these businesses, you’re helping to create a more inclusive and equitable marketplace. 4. Educate Yourself and Others Pride Month is an excellent time to educate yourself and others about LGBTQ+ history, rights, and issues. Understanding the struggles and achievements of the community helps foster empathy and solidarity. Take the time to learn about significant events like the Stonewall Riots, influential LGBTQ+ figures, and the ongoing fight for equality and acceptance. Share this knowledge with your friends, family, and colleagues. Creating an informed and supportive environment is crucial for the well-being of the LGBTQ+ community. Remember, education is a continuous process, and there is always more to learn and understand. 5. Engage in Active Allyship Active allyship goes beyond performative gestures. It involves standing up against discrimination, advocating for LGBTQ+ rights, and being a supportive presence in the lives of LGBTQ+ individuals. This can mean speaking out against homophobic, transphobic, or biphobic remarks, supporting inclusive policies and legislation, and being a reliable friend or family member. As Pride Month approaches, commit to being an active ally. Attend Pride events, volunteer with LGBTQ+ organisations, donate to causes that support the community, and use your platform to amplify LGBTQ+ voices. Active allyship is about making a tangible difference and showing up for the community in meaningful ways. As we gear up for Pride Month, let’s celebrate the LGBTQ+ community with joy and pride while remembering that our support and allyship must extend beyond June. By recognising the importance of year-round advocacy, avoiding rainbow washing, supporting LGBTQ+ businesses, educating ourselves, and engaging in active allyship, we can create a more inclusive and supportive world for everyone. Happy Pride! 🏳️🌈
- key things to think about when celebrating international day against homophobia, biphobia and transphobia
IDAHOBIT - International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia and Transphobia Every year, on May 17th, people around the world come together to observe International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia and Transphobia (IDAHOBIT). This day serves as a reminder of the ongoing struggles faced by LGBTQ+ individuals and communities and a call to action to combat discrimination, promote acceptance, and advocate for equality. In honour of IDAHOTB, let's explore some important topics for discussion and reflection. 1. Understanding Intersectionality: The fight against homophobia, transphobia, and biphobia intersects with other forms of discrimination, such as racism, ableism, and sexism. Recognising and addressing these intersections is crucial for building inclusive and equitable communities where everyone feels valued and respected. 2. Challenges Faced by LGBTQ+ Youth: LGBTQ+ youth often face unique challenges, including bullying, discrimination, homelessness, and mental health issues. By raising awareness of these challenges and providing support and resources, we can create safer and more supportive environments for LGBTQ+ young people to thrive. 3. Health Disparities in the LGBTQ+ Community: Despite progress in LGBTQ+ rights, health disparities persist, with LGBTQ+ individuals experiencing barriers to healthcare access and higher rates of certain health conditions. Addressing these disparities requires culturally competent care, inclusive policies, and advocacy for LGBTQ+ health equity. 4. Legal Rights and Equality: While significant progress has been made in advancing LGBTQ+ rights globally, many challenges remain, including legal discrimination, violence, and lack of protections. It's essential to continue advocating for equal rights and protections for all LGBTQ+ individuals, regardless of their gender identity or sexual orientation. 5. Intersection of Religion and LGBTQ+ Identities: The intersection of religion and LGBTQ+ identities can be complex, with experiences ranging from rejection and discrimination to acceptance and reconciliation within faith communities. By fostering dialogue and understanding, we can promote greater acceptance and inclusion of LGBTQ+ individuals within religious spaces. 6. Transgender Rights and Visibility: Transgender rights are human rights, and visibility is crucial in combating transphobia and advocating for gender-affirming healthcare, legal recognition, and inclusive policies. By amplifying transgender voices and experiences, we can work towards a more inclusive and equitable society for all. 7. Bisexual Erasure and Biphobia: Bisexual individuals often face erasure, stereotypes, and discrimination within both LGBTQ+ and mainstream communities. By raising awareness of bisexual identities and experiences, we can challenge biphobia and promote greater visibility and acceptance of bisexual individuals. 8. Global Perspectives on LGBTQ+ Rights: LGBTQ+ rights vary widely around the world, with progress, setbacks, and ongoing struggles for equality in different regions. By understanding global perspectives on LGBTQ+ rights, we can advocate for change and support LGBTQ+ individuals and communities worldwide. 9. Allyship and Solidarity: Allies play a crucial role in supporting the LGBTQ+ community, from advocating for LGBTQ+ rights to creating safe and inclusive spaces. By educating ourselves, speaking out against discrimination, and standing in solidarity with LGBTQ+ individuals, we can work together to create a more just and inclusive world for all. 10. Celebrating Diversity: Above all, International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia and Transphobia is a time to celebrate the rich diversity of LGBTQ+ identities and experiences. By embracing diversity and promoting acceptance, we can create a world where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued for who they are. As we observe International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia and Transphobia, let's commit to raising awareness, fostering understanding, and promoting equality for all LGBTQ+ individuals and communities. By engaging in meaningful dialogue, taking action to address discrimination, and celebrating diversity, we can create a world where everyone can live authentically and free from fear of discrimination or prejudice.
- combating discrimination on international day against homophobia, biphobia and transphobia
International Day Against Homophobia As we commemorate International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia and Transphobia (IDAHOBIT) it's crucial to recognise that the fight for LGBTQ+ rights intersects with other forms of discrimination. Understanding and addressing these intersections is essential for creating inclusive and equitable communities where everyone feels valued and respected. Recognising Intersectionality Intersectionality acknowledges that individuals may experience multiple forms of discrimination simultaneously, based on factors such as race, gender identity, sexual orientation, disability, and socioeconomic status. For example, a Black transgender woman may face discrimination not only because of her gender identity but also because of her race and socioeconomic background. Challenges Faced by Marginalised Communities By acknowledging intersectionality, we can better understand the unique challenges faced by marginalised communities within the LGBTQ+ community. For instance, LGBTQ+ people of colour may experience compounded discrimination due to racism and homophobia/transphobia, leading to disparities in healthcare access, employment opportunities, and housing security. Building Inclusive and Equitable Communities Addressing intersectionality requires a multifaceted approach that goes beyond addressing one form of discrimination in isolation. It involves creating policies and initiatives that consider the intersecting identities and experiences of individuals and communities. This includes promoting diversity and representation in leadership positions, implementing inclusive hiring practices, and providing resources and support tailored to the needs of marginalised groups. Intersectionality in Action Highlighting intersectionality allows us to amplify the voices and experiences of those most affected by discrimination and marginalisation. It involves centering the experiences of LGBTQ+ individuals who are also people of colour, disabled, or from other marginalised backgrounds in our advocacy efforts and policy-making decisions. As we observe International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia and Transphobia, let's commit to recognising and addressing intersectionality in our fight for LGBTQ+ rights. By understanding the complex ways in which discrimination intersects and impacts individuals and communities, we can create a more inclusive and equitable society where everyone feels valued, respected, and empowered to live authentically. Together, let's embrace intersectionality and work towards a future where all forms of discrimination are eradicated, and every individual can thrive without fear of prejudice or discrimination.
- wedding registrar vs. wedding celebrant: understanding the difference
When it comes to planning a wedding in the UK, couples have the option of choosing between a wedding registrar and a wedding celebrant to officiate their ceremony. While both play important roles in facilitating the legal aspects and emotional significance of the ceremony, there are distinct differences between the two. In this blog, we'll explore the roles of wedding registrars and wedding celebrants, their responsibilities, and the unique benefits they offer to couples. The Wedding Registrar A wedding registrar is a licensed official responsible for conducting legal marriage ceremonies. Registrars are appointed by local authorities and authorised to solemnise marriages in accordance with the law. Couples must typically give notice of their intent to marry at their local registry office and schedule a ceremony with a registrar at an approved venue. Responsibilities of a Wedding Registrar Conducting legal marriage ceremonies in compliance with legal requirements and regulations. Ensuring all necessary paperwork is completed and filed correctly to validate the marriage. Offering guidance and support to nearly-weds throughout the process of obtaining a marriage license and planning the ceremony. Officiating ceremonies at designated venues approved for civil marriages and partnerships. Benefits of a Wedding Registrar Legal recognition: Marriage ceremonies conducted by registrars are legally binding and recognised by law. Simplified process: Registrars handle all legal aspects of the ceremony, including filing marriage documents with the appropriate authorities. Accessibility: To-be-weds can choose from a variety of approved venues for their ceremony, including registry offices, hotels, and other licensed locations. Cons of Using a Wedding Registrar Limited personalisation: Wedding ceremonies conducted by registrars may be more standardised and less personalised compared to those officiated by celebrants. Legal restrictions: Registrars are bound by legal requirements and regulations, which may limit the flexibility and creativity of the ceremony, as well potentially misgendering Trans and Non-binary people if they do not have a Gender Recognition Certificate (GRC). Inability to marry throuples/polyamorous relationships: Registrars are typically only authorised to officiate marriages between two individuals, meaning they cannot legally marry throuples or polyamorous relationships. The Wedding Celebrant A wedding celebrant is a non-religious officiant who specialises in creating personalised and meaningful ceremonies that reflect the values, beliefs, and preferences of the nearly-weds. Celebrants work closely with the marriers to design and officiate bespoke ceremonies tailored to their unique love story, personalities, and cultural traditions. Responsibilities of a Wedding Celebrant Collaborating with to-be-weds to create personalised ceremony scripts that capture their love story and values. Officiating ceremonies at any location of the lover's choosing, including outdoor settings, private residences, and unconventional venues. Incorporating rituals, readings, and symbolic gestures that hold personal significance for the nearly-weds. Providing emotional support and guidance to marriers throughout the wedding planning process. Benefits of a Wedding Celebrant Personalisation: Celebrants offer to-be-weds the freedom to customise every aspect of their ceremony, from vows and readings to music and rituals. Flexibility: Nearly-weds can choose the date, time, and location of their ceremony, allowing for greater flexibility and creativity. Inclusivity: Celebrants welcome lovers of all backgrounds, orientations, and beliefs, creating inclusive and welcoming spaces for diverse love stories. Pronoun Respect: Wedding celebrants have the flexibility to use the correct pronouns for marriers without misgendering them, providing a more inclusive and affirming experience, especially for transgender and non-binary lovers. Unlike registrars, celebrants are not bound by legal requirements to use gendered language based on sex assigned at birth if they do not have a Gender Recognition Certificate (GRC). Ability to hold commitment ceremonies for throuples/polyamorous relationships: Celebrants have the flexibility to officiate commitment ceremonies for throuples or polyamorous relationships, providing a meaningful way for these lovers to celebrate their love and commitment. Cons of Using a Wedding Celebrant Cost: Wedding celebrants may charge higher fees for their services compared to registrars, potentially adding to the overall cost of the wedding. Limited legal authority: While celebrants can officiate meaningful and personalised ceremonies, their marriages may not have the same legal recognition as those conducted by registrars in some jurisdictions. Whether lovers opt for a wedding registrar or a wedding celebrant, both play integral roles in helping to-be-weds create memorable and meaningful wedding ceremonies. While registrars provide legal recognition and compliance with marriage laws, celebrants offer lovers the opportunity to personalise their ceremonies and celebrate their love in a truly unique and authentic way. Ultimately, the choice between a registrar and a celebrant depends on the to-be-wed's preferences, values, and vision for their special day. Over here at Rebel Love Directory, we LOVE our Celebrants. We believe that currently they are the key way to ensure you have a loving and inclusive ceremony that is about you, your love, your friends and family without the fear of being misgendered or misrepresented. Below are just some of our incredible Celebrants that are on our directory;
- what does intersectionality mean?
Demystifying Intersectionality: Understanding the Interconnected Nature of Social Identities Intersectionality is a term that has gained prominence in discussions surrounding social justice and equality. Coined by legal scholar Kimberlé Crenshaw in the late 1980s, intersectionality acknowledges that individuals possess multiple social identities that intersect and interact with one another, shaping their experiences of privilege and oppression. In this blog, we'll delve into the concept of intersectionality, exploring its significance and implications for marginalised communities, including LGBTQ+, Black and POC, Disabled people, and other marginalised groups The Complexity of Identity At its core, intersectionality recognises that individuals are not defined by a single aspect of their identity. Rather, people hold multiple social identities—such as race, gender, sexuality, class, ability, and more—that intersect and overlap, influencing their lived experiences and opportunities. For example, a Black transgender woman may face discrimination based on both her race and gender identity, leading to unique challenges and forms of oppression. Understanding Systems of Oppression Intersectionality highlights the interconnected nature of systems of oppression, which operate at the individual, institutional, and societal levels. These systems—such as racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, and transphobia—intersect and compound, resulting in intersecting forms of discrimination and marginalisation for individuals with multiple marginalised identities. For instance, a disabled LGBTQ+ person of colour may face discrimination based on their disability, race, sexual orientation, and gender identity simultaneously, leading to complex and intersecting barriers to equality. Centering Marginalised Voices One of the central tenets of intersectionality is the importance of centering the voices and experiences of marginalised communities. By listening to and amplifying the perspectives of those most impacted by intersecting forms of discrimination, we can gain a deeper understanding of the complex dynamics of oppression and privilege. This includes recognising the unique struggles and resilience of LGBTQ+ individuals of colour, disabled LGBTQ+ individuals, and other intersectional identities. Challenges and Opportunities Intersectionality also highlights the need to address the root causes of systemic inequality and injustice. By recognising and dismantling intersecting systems of oppression, we can work towards creating more inclusive and equitable societies where everyone has access to opportunities, resources, and rights. This requires collective action, allyship, and solidarity across diverse communities and movements. In conclusion, intersectionality is a powerful framework for understanding the complexity of social identities and the intersecting forms of discrimination and privilege that shape individuals' experiences. By embracing intersectionality, we can work towards creating a more just and equitable world where everyone—regardless of their intersecting identities—can thrive and live authentically. Let's continue to advocate for social justice, equality, and inclusion for all.
- how to increase your chances of profile views (which leads to bookings!)
Here are some points to consider, to help you (a LGBTQ+ inclusive wedding supplier) improve your chances of attracting clients to your profiles on the directory: 1. Enhance Your Profile Imagery Consider updating your profile images to be more eye-catching and reflective of your brand and services. High-quality, professional images can make a significant difference in attracting potential clients and showcasing the quality of your work. The directory is FULL of incredible photographers, why not use it to find a photographer near you and set up a Branding Shoot. 2. Optimise Your Profile Review your profile description and ensure it effectively communicates your unique selling points, services offered, and what sets you apart from competitors. Use clear, concise language and highlight any specialisations, unique offerings, or accolades to capture the attention of potential clients. 3. Compelling Profile Description (the short blurb) Craft a short but impactful profile sentence that succinctly highlights your unique selling points and services. Use compelling language to showcase your expertise, specialisation, or any unique aspects of your business that set you apart from competitors. Here are some examples of suppliers who do 2 + 3 really well and ultimately get great profile views (click the picture to view their profile) 4. Utilise Keywords Incorporate relevant keywords in your profile sentence that potential clients might use when searching for services like yours. Keywords can help your profile appear in search results and increase the likelihood of clients clicking through to learn more about your offerings. 5. Provide a Call-to-Action Include a subtle call-to-action in your profile sentence to encourage potential clients to click into your profile. Phrases like "Discover more," "Learn about our services," or "Explore our offerings" can prompt clients to click through for more information. 6. Engage with the LGBTQ+ Community Actively engage with the LGBTQ+ community through social media, forums, and events to increase visibility and build rapport. Show your support for LGBTQ+ causes and initiatives to demonstrate your commitment to inclusivity and diversity, which can resonate with potential clients seeking inclusive wedding suppliers. 7. Engage with the Rebel Love Directory's socials When we offer the opportunity for extra exposure such as Supplier Spotlight Reels, be all over it! This will give you extra exposure to the audiences that you want to work with. Share the directory's posts, show that you are as active in your allyship as you say you are and share the content that you think will help educate people about the LGBTQ+ community CREATE shareable content that helps educate and shout about the community and tag the directory in these posts, we are likely to share if its helpful information By implementing these suggestions, you can enhance your profile's appeal and increase your chances of attracting clients to your services on the directory. Remember to regularly review and update your profile to ensure it remains relevant and compelling to potential clients. We're happy to edit and amend your profile as and when you need us to - just drop us an email with the amendments!
- 4 signs of lgbtq+ Inclusivity to Look For in Your Wedding Suppliers
How To Tell If A Wedding Supplier is LGBTQ+ Inclusive: A Guide by Rebel Love Directory Every couple deserves to feel seen, valued, and celebrated. At Rebel Love Directory, we believe that every wedding supplier should share this sentiment. But how can you tell if a supplier truly embraces LGBTQ+ inclusivity? Here are some key indicators to guide you: 1. Representation Matters: Do you see other LGBTQ+ lovers on their website or socials? - Why it Matters: Representation goes beyond mere visibility; it signifies acknowledgment and acceptance. When a supplier showcases LGBTQ+ couples in their portfolio or social media feeds, it sends a clear message: "You are welcome here." 2. Words That Welcome: Are they using inclusive language? - Why it Matters: Language shapes our perceptions and feelings. Inclusive language shows respect and understanding. When a supplier uses terms like "spouses," "partners," or "couples" instead of exclusively "bride and groom," it demonstrates their commitment to recognising and honouring all love stories. 3. Community Connections: Do they actively share content from LGBTQ+ creators on their stories, and do they show how they are involved in the community? - Why it Matters: Being inclusive is not just about words; it's about actions. When a supplier actively engages with LGBTQ+ creators and shares their content, it indicates a genuine effort to support and uplift the community. Furthermore, their involvement in LGBTQ+ events or initiatives showcases a deeper commitment to fostering an inclusive environment. 4. Pronouns: A Simple Yet Powerful Statement: Do they have their pronouns in their bio/email signature? - Why it Matters: Sharing one's pronouns is a simple yet impactful way to create a welcoming space. It normalises the practice of not making assumptions about someone's gender identity and shows respect for individuals' self-identifications. When a supplier includes their pronouns in their bio or email signature, it demonstrates an awareness and respect for gender diversity. Inclusivity is more than a buzzword; it's a commitment to recognising and celebrating the diversity of love. As you embark on your wedding planning journey, let these indicators guide you in choosing suppliers who will honour and cherish your unique love story. Of course, we cannot promise that just because suppliers have implemented all of the above that they will be 100% LGBTQ+ inclusive, but it's a very good start. At Rebel Love Directory, we celebrate all love, and we're here to help you find suppliers who do the same. Happy planning! 🌈❤️🌟